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When
DNA solutions first approached me to add a listing to our site,
I was at first not sure it would be a good idea!
But I my self, have in the past pondered the question, is he or isn't
he! Especially since I only had his mothers word for it and she left
when he was 13 months old. Although it was something I thought I might
quite like answered, I was honestly too scared to find out for sure,
especially when he was young, because I was not sure how it would affect
my feeling towards him, would I love him any less! Would I treat him
any different! "I raised him as my child therefore he is my son"
and at that time could we actually afford to know for sure, since it
would possibly be my son paying the price, and I was in fact all he
had.
And so I decided to wait until he was old enough to communicate his feelings and understand mine, equally important was to know for sure that we shared unconditional love and devotion. He is now 15 years old and I'm so proud of him
We received a DNA home kit which was real easy to use, you simply open a packet, put the swab into your mouth, then put it back in the packet and send it to them, its that simple.
The waiting was the hard part. I soon imagined the worst and had even convinced my self that he was not my true offspring, this left me feeling very cheated, emotional and betrayed, almost like I had been living a lie.
The idea that my genes had not been passed on subconsciously triggered an overwhelming desire for me to find a mate and start breeding, not to mention the urgency, I guess that's what you call "primal instinct"
The
results arrived a week later, and to my amazement, "since I had
convinced my self that it would be negative" proved positive. And
I have to confess that I do love him all the more ( if that's possible)
Now at last with the doubt removed I feel, content and complete 
But
it did make me realise that had the results been negative, I'm still unsure as to how this would of changed our relationship, I would not
of loved him any less, but I know that something deep down would of changed for ever 
My
personal advice for people seeking parental prove !..
If you're a single parent, don't do it
when your child is young, wait until they are old enough to communicate
their feelings and understand yours. Since its possible that you are
all they have. Their feeling won't change towards you, but yours might
consciously or subconsciously change towards them!
Only
get a DNA test when and only when, you have developed a bond that can't
be broken, with unconditional love and devotion, things may change but
at least you will be able to talk about it 
Prepare for the worst, Get counseling before and after, should the results prove negative.
Ask the question! Do you really need to know?
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